Sunday, August 29, 2010

Is It Possible?

Dear Tom

The question is, can you fall in love with someone you have never met? I gave the question a thought last nite. Maybe it really depends on what you mean by falling in love. For me, I take sight, touch, movement etc. that comes with actually meeting someone, finding the real attraction, and letting the mystique of "getting to know" each other work its magic. However, however......

It is not impossible to love someone you have not met. When love comes, you feel it and no matter if the person is right there or far away, it feels the same. (It's like spiritual connection). I do believe even if you do end up falling in love with someone you haven't met you eventually do have to meet and never expect perfection. I think you have to think I love this person but unconditionally at this point in time and it is a friendship. If it is meant to be something more it will be. I know it is possible to love someone you haven't met by keeping things in perspective. I know what I feel and I'm optimisic. I believe anything is possible.

I also thought about arranged marriage that is often practiced quite widely in India. How the woman experience unexpected love and romance in her life. It sounds very interesting. A couple spoke on Oprah, where an Indian bride said that the question of whether the bride and groom are in love is not a priority. What is important is that the marriage is stable with staying power. She likes the part where she learns everyday something new about her husband. How he takes to his coffee when she prepares them. Which side of the bed should they fight for? I was smiling to myself thinking that this could happen to us.

Love makes the world go round. We all need and want to be madly and passionately in love. I know, I have to love you for what you are, and when we meet, we see what happens. I believe meeting someone as early as you can - transparency is quite important in making romance work. I don't want to set myself up for disappointment by investing my heart so much in the process. I am also afraid that otherwise the fantasies we each built in our heads will overwhelm reality. As much as we tell each other not to make expectations, it is human nature and it happens. I am trying my best to stay open and not fall so early, but easier said than done, right? I can only speak for myself and not others. Do you think we would disappoint each other when we really meet? It is definitely not great for the ego. But hey, life is about trying.

I am all hearts for you........